We are in the middle of having a new kitchen put in. Part of the work is being done by a family member so I spent this past Friday night (after my regular job) working til 10 pm and then Saturday from 7am til 10pm doing some of the work. Sunday I worked until 10am when I broke for church and then a neighborhood picnic where I proceeded to get a little tippsy (nthing drastic). My wife has been a little peeved with me since I came back from the party (she left earlier then me to take care of some things at the home)as she wanted my help in cleaning things up around the home that evening and I wasn't up to her standards in quality (tired and tippsy) and all I really wanted was to watch some of the ballgame. My qustion, am i an insenitive jerk or what?

John, I don't think you are an insensitive jerk at all. It sounds to me like you've been working your tail off and you ended up enjoying some downtime, nothing wrong with that. Don't feel guilty man. Sounds to me the wife should be more grateful for all you are doing.

I agree. Unless most of the home repairs with your family member is more drinkie less workie. I have that problem with my brother alot.I think thats quite a bit of hours to be working especially after your norm job. Nothing wrong with a brew after all that.

I'm a female and I don't think you're and insensitive jerk at all. They're right, she should be grateful for the stuff you did help out with and if she wants to complain about you having some down-time then she's being selfish. With my husband, he's not very good at home repair type of stuff, so if I need something done and I don't want to or can't do it then I hire somebody instead of whining at him to do it or learn it. It's just not his forte. He works extra hard so I can stay at home while our three kids are in school which means I have the house all to myself all day, so I think that I can lay off of him and call someone else to do it. Sounds like to me she's not appreciating you. Get her the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr Laura Schlessinger. She'll be offended, but if she really loves you and wants to make your marriage HOT then she'll take the time to read it and right her wrongs.

And one more thing, my husband is a man that loves God too so she better be thanking her God above that her man goes to church and is a believer because there's a lot of wives and single women out there that would love to get their hands on you and if she's not careful about picking at you all of the time she's going to drive you right into one of those womens' arms.