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You didn't say MT, but I am guessing that you and your wife are in your early to mid 30's. I believe that is a time of struggle for women as they see their youth starting to slip away and want to take a grab at what they think they have missed in life.

Without giving up my own details, let me just say I was where you are about 15 years ago. I chose to look the other way and not pursue my suspicions. It has turned out to be a huge mistake as even though she passed through that phase and stayed with me, our life together has been pretty hollow since that time.

I suggest you ask her right now if she intends to stay with you. If she insists yes, then you insist that she give up this clandestine behavior immediately. If she says you are overreacting or makes a huge scene about how paranoid you are, she has already chosen. Don't be played for a fool!

By the way, years ago I found this really neat souvineer football in the house at Christmastime. I thought it was for me. Turned out it was for wife's "friend." She put a lot of time and effort into getting that gift. I hope you are seeing the picture here.

Remember this, you can ALWAYS judge what is in someones heart by their actions.

Good Luck!

Chief thanks for the response. FYI i'm 39 wife is 42. I think this is all about her thinking she has missed out on some of the things she now says she had wished she had done. But I really can't remember her pushing for anything that I didn't support.

I think I am being played a fool. I don't know what to do about it though. My son would take it hard if we split up especially since we are supposed to move to another state soon and I'm sure that if we did split she would stay here and then I would rarely get to see my son and I can't take that. But a t the same time I am not content to sit by and watch her think she is being so good at her desception.

We did have a lenghty discussion a few days ago that was a start to fix this thing. Evidently she doesn't know who I am anyone due to the fact that I didn't follow through with some career plans. She expected me to do this and I remember telling her why I wasn't going to follow through with it 3 years ago. Now it's an issue.
She says she loves me and she has no interest in another man. But it is hard for me to believe that seeing how she is doing these things behind my back. I have even contemplated confronting the guys and letting them know I'm aware of what is happening. I'm sure that will set off some fires here at home but I'm beginning to not care so much. I'll not be punked out and made a fool of.