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I've never been much of a beleiver in the old mid-life crisis deal. I figured it was just some made up condition used as a comparison to the female menopause.
However, I have noticed lately that I spend more time now looking back on my life and wishing I had made better decisions. I feel nostalgic when I hear the songs of my youth. I think I am becoming a little less "visible" to the world with each passing day. I don't have the sports car yet, haven't quit my job to travel the world, and I haven't gone hunting for the twenty-something trophy wife. But, I do wonder if these feelings are the beginning of a real mid-life crisis. By the way, I am 49 and about 4 months shy of the big five-oh. (Maybe that milestone has something to do with it) Just wondering if any of you other guys have been through, or are going through anything similar? One more thing...... I have started referring to anyone younger than 40 as one of those "damn kids."  |
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Ah, the trophy wife - ever hear the song "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life"?  I dunno Chief - I traveled a lot at a pretty young age. Even though I was stationed in Kansas, I traveled all over the US on missions, even up to Alaska. I've had a sports car, a good sized (sail)boat, all that. So for me, I'm not wanting those things. What I want, and what I worry about, is that what I do matters. That it counts for something more than just an average guy doing average work. The other thing I worry about is that when I'm gone (hopefully many years from now) is that no one will remember that I was even here. I don't know about spiritual immortality, but it would be nice to be remembered for at least a couple generations after I'm gone. I don't worry about visibility at work either - I'm kind of hard to ignore in meetings. I sometimes have the attitude that I rather be hated than ignored. YMMV. Try this Chief - if someone is older than you, regardless of your age, make fun of them for being old fogies, and if someone is younger than you, make fun of them for being clueless nubs. It's fun, really. Remember the LKS Golden Rule, if you can't laugh at yourself, make fun of others. -- "No job is beneath a man's dignity as long as it is honest and supports his family" - my grandfather http://ma.gnolia.com/groups/bestlife |
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well i am the young one of this forum (i won't be 49 til march)and i have not gone through mid life crisis yet. maybe it is the fact i got married at an older age than most (30) and had the time to "sow the wild oats" that many don't
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Bah, you're ancient - I'm a spry 45. :-)
-- "No job is beneath a man's dignity as long as it is honest and supports his family" - my grandfather http://ma.gnolia.com/groups/bestlife |
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I'm a whopping 43. Almost 44. I saw a Journey video the other evening from a concert I had been at. Talk about nostalgia. My uncle begged me to be an attorney. I'm a school teacher, working two jobs. There's a life choice I ponder on occassion. My wife has been ill for the past 2 1/2 years. I'm living late life crises in my early middle age.
But I'm not complaining. I watch EPL every Saturday morning, catch church on Sunday's and keep waiting for the Federal government to pay my wife the almost $40,000 disability back pay an attorney says they owe her. Then I can go on a cruise!  O43 Nothing tastes as good as the feeling of being fit...- M. Douglass McGuff When I was growing up I knew I wanted to be thin, tan and rich...Anthony Bourdain |
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Well, I am 65 an have been retired for 2 years now. I am still getting used to the idea of watching my neighbors drive off to work while I am pouring a cup of coffee and planning my day.
I'm not sure if I ever had a Mid-Life Crisis. I changed duty stations often enough and remarried when I was 42 after being single for 7 years. A Mid-Life Crisis might have happened and I didn't notice. Now I am doing most of what I want to do. I wound up being better off financially than I really expected to be, and my wife is attractive, loveable and easy to live with. Both of us are in good health and able to get to the gym several times a week. Sometimes I think that I would like to buy a nice sports cars, or a motor home or go on a very long cruise, but as a practical matter I continue to have reservations about spending that much money in these unpredictable times. I'll look at the employment ads every once in a while, but I only see stuff that I don't have the least bit of interest in doing. One of the main things that I haven't really figured out is if I want to continue living in a Bible Belt region of the country or if I want to bite the bullet and move to a more liberal area. On the other hand, pure liberals irritate me right to the core. I have seen a couple of guys who clearly went through a Mid-Life Crisis as evidenced by the DUMB decisions they made. None of the ones I know are happy today, so my recommendation is to moderate your Mid-Life urges. |
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Hell, if making dumb decisions is the sign of a mid-life crisis, I've been having one for about 30 years
 -- "No job is beneath a man's dignity as long as it is honest and supports his family" - my grandfather http://ma.gnolia.com/groups/bestlife |
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My brother's family might be breaking up due to a mid-life crisis. In this case, hers not his. He was blind-sided by the revelation that she is miserable. Now, he is doing damage control and trying to find a way to keep things together, although she seems disinterested in working things out. Pretty much a clasic case of mid-life crisis as we have come to know it.
I guess in my situation it has been more of an awakening than a shock. I see myself and the world much differently now than I did 10 years ago. I guess it's a natural part of aging (maybe it's the beginning of wisdom), and since these new thoughts are often less than comfortable, I suppose that is why this event gets all of the negative press. Posting on this board to discuss the issues of guys in the 40-70 age range has been very helpful to me. |
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Pecos, I will be retiring at 63. Could have been earlier, but made dumb early life decisions. I have to say that one of the reasons I get up six days a week and either strength train, or ride the Airdyne is because when I retire at 63 I want to enjoy life, and do things, and hopefully have some time left. Some of the fellows I work with are in their mid to late 50's, they look like heck: pot bellies, flabby triceps, no energy...I don't want to be retired and shopping the garage sale circuit when I could be doing something else. O43 Nothing tastes as good as the feeling of being fit...- M. Douglass McGuff When I was growing up I knew I wanted to be thin, tan and rich...Anthony Bourdain |
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At 47 am I still going thru a midlife crises?
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