I am 44 about to turn the big 45... this is harder than 40 because it is on the downslide to 50! My wide and I have two teenage boys and twin seven year old twin girls. I had a V after the twins! Sex life is much better with the V, by far. We try to shoot for sex every night but can only make it a couple of weeks like that before something happens. We have a very busy and noisy home! I like both MH and BL... I find one supplements the other (I have one foot in the younger side still, one foot over on the older!).

OK... I meant "wife" not "wide"... she is actually amazingly still petite and sexy, even after those twins! I am a lucky man... just need to be able to keep up with her!

sex every night! god bless you! i am soon to be 48 yo. wife is 46 and we have two teen boys (17,15). sex two to three times a month is about average for us. but those two to three times are pretty darn good!

also had the big v after the second one was born.

I am 48, I was married for 23 years, and then divorced two years ago, and remarried last summer, my wife is 10 years younger than me.

I have three children in the early 20s, late teens, and a six year old, and my wife is pregnant now so I will have another little one this summer.

We have had great sex, 3/4 times a week usually, which I know will stop as the pregnancy progresses and when the baby is born, but I have been through that before.

So far I have stayed away from the viagra type pills, but my endurance is not what it once was and I am thinking of going to those. Any downsides?

48 and happily married for 26 yrs.
My wife is German and we have a 22 yr. old son and 9 yr. old daughter.
Retired from the Army, lived in Germany for 12 of those years. Now a teacher.
The wife is a breast cancer survivor,
so that's the best news I have.
She is now gradually recovering from chemo-therapy induced menopause.

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After reading your story I feel like relating mine. I’m married and happy. But a few months ago my married life was a total disaster. My husband was ignoring me; I mean we didn’t made love for almost 3 months. I know this is shocking but it is the truth. I started doubting my husband; I even spied him and come to know that there is no other woman. But still I was not relieved……I thought perhaps I’m not that beautiful anymore. One day I muster my courage and talk to him. He told me that he does not feel the excitement. I was shocked. I talked about it to a sexologist and he told me that he would like to examine my husband because my condition was normal. Somehow I convince him and he followed the doctor’s instructions. He was told to use Caverject. I don’t know much about it but if you want some information about it then you can read this article which is found at

http://www.drugdelivery.ca/s3366-s-CAVERJECT.aspx

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Late 30's, married to the same lovely lady for 13 years. Both work full time away from the home. Two great kids - 10 & 7. Wife & I don't have much time for each other.

Sex about once or twice per month, usually quickly in the shower. I miss the long, passionate nights we used to roll around in our bed. Ever since we had kids, our sex life has slowly died.

About 2 years ago, she discovered most of my porn usage. She already knew about some of it. She felt inferior to all the huge boobed models and felt as if I only wanted her for sex. We almost split up over it. I realized that I was addicted to porn and decided stop viewing porn altogether.

It wasn't easy. I read some books and joined a men's sexual addict recovery group. I have done extremely well, only through God's grace and love. He really listens to prayers, especially once you start living the way He wants you to live. He was trying to get me to get away from porn all along. I knew it, I just wasn't strong enough to leave it alone.

Once I got into the books and classes, I figured out some of the reasons I had always viewed pornography and was pretty unhappy with myself and the past. I highly encourage anyone who views pornography to look into the deep "why's".

Anyway, the wife and I are still together and we have gotten into a dry spell again. I swear I don't understand women. Men can do everything in the world and it still won't make them see how important a physical, intimate relationship is with their SO.

Case in point: my wife has wanted a new wedding ring for forever. I surprised her with one last Christmas in front of her family. She loved it, they loved it. Her Dad even joked about them leaving so she could 'thank me'. Oh yeah, she said thanks and gave me a hug, but no sex. Still, it's no big deal to her.

So, here I am doing pretty much everything she tells me to do, staying away from porn, not masturbating and I still don't get much sex. I even got a vasectomy about 6 years ago, because she couldn't tolerate the pill (when she remembered it). I was tired of condoms, we talked it over and I got snipped. The sex was even less after having it done, because she doesn't like to have semen leaking out afterward. (That's the biggest reason for having mostly shower sex, I think.)

I am so frustrated. I'm scared to ask for it for fear of wanting it all the time and she hardly ever wants it. It's always got to be on her schedule, when she wants it, how she wants it. This is one of the reasons I turned to porn before. It was just easier to take matters into my own hands and not have to play her stupid games. Then, I felt guilty and childish for going behind her back. Then, I felt even more resentment towards her because she was turning me down and forcing me to turn to porn.

I just don't know why it has to be so difficult. Am I wrong?

man naze, have you considered getting her in for a physical? maybe there is something internal that is causing this draught.

also, maybe surprise her with a weekend away. find someone to watch the kids and take her away for even one night. after our kids were born, my wife went into super mothering mode (and still is on occasion after 17 years) where she starts thinking about the house, the garden, the kids, their social lives, ect and me and mr johnson get pushed to the back (wayyyyyyyyyy back)