I'm a married guy in my 40's. How can I overcome the guilt that I get after I masturbate? I think that it is due to my strong religious upbringing. Because of this, I only due it a few times a year. When I do it I enjoy it, but I find that the strong guilt doesn't make it worth it. Also because of this I have a problem getting a boner in order to do it. Any suggestions? ?:|

I have or better yet had the same problem. I found it hard to get over the religious aspects of the whole thing and have found that doing the real thing with someone else is far superior to doing it with my right hand friend (or if I felt like cheating the left hand one.)

Also because you have a problem getting a hard on doing this, where is the pleasure of it all?

You are worrying about something which does not matter as long as it is not a substitute for a relationship. Also, you sound like a higher risk for prostate cancer.

Hi all,

The number of people who suffer from guilt before, during or after masturbation is very common. I am not sure that I agree you are at risk from prostate cancer. It sounds to me like this is a psychological problem and I would be more than happy to help you, if that is what you would like. (this can be done on here, or via email if you prefer)