Been married 18 years. sex seems to be something my spouse does only when shes in the mood.Is it really asking too much for a blowjob when she's ragging. Getting tired of spanking it, why is it so hard for her to understand that it really isn't asking for much to keep me from going elsewhere.



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I'm new to these forums. You're joking right? You don't really feel that your wife should submit to your desires do you? If you would really go somewhere else just because of an unmet sexual desire, not need, then you've already left anyway!

I know when I was married, I would at times go down on my wife and not ask for anything in return. This actually upped my pleasure in our sex life because she was more willing to do for me. :^O

My wife is the same. She has told me she used to love giving head but now she does not have the desire. Honestly I have accepted the fact the I will hardly recieve it even though I still love to eat pussy.

My wife is the same. She has told me she used to love giving head but now she does not have the desire. Honestly I have accepted the fact the I will hardly recieve it even though I still love to go down on her.

I don't know, I never really enjoyed it as much as others I guess. Its fun, but not something that gets me off. Besides the wife's mouth is too small and the teeth tend to scrape....not enjoyable.

Maybe it's your attitude that needs tweaking. I assume from what you say that you have issues wrt sex while she is "ragging" as you so eloquently put it?

I was married for 14 years and my ex left a whole lot to be desired. My problems? Well, he firmly believed that if he was satisfied then I was satisfied. His approach tactics were stellar--"Do you mind if I stick it in?" His "manly" scent made me gag and he complained constantly about everything. The one time I tried to suggest that he change something he was doing that not only did not turn me on, but I disliked fairly intensely he informed me that "of course you like it, all women like this." The entire performance was conducted in complete silence--no exchange of information, no endearments etc. However, apparently I was supposed to shout when I climaxed. Needless to say, I never shouted--I trade him in for a better model, lol.

Very well put Cinnamon...although I have to admit you can't fault your ex for not being direct and to the point! Man O man...anyway, consider this "You can't always get what you want...but if you try sometimes, you'll find...you get what you need".

ok, he gets 1 out of 10 for being direct! :^O But it ends there. My only complaint in this department now is that it's not often enough.

I have to agree with Jeff that there is something else going on if you are talking about going elsewhere because you do get head. Have you talked about this or are you expecting her to read your mind that this is a big issue for you.

A passive prompting would be the next time you go down on her swing yourself around to a 69 position. Having your dick in her face might give her the idea.

My wife use to give head when we were dating. She did it while I was driving. (Big Turn on). She now no longer likes to. I don't make an issue of, becasue I don't like going down on her. I only did it when she went down on me. I really miss it, but that's life

What I have learned is that women's moods depend on EVERYTHING. If you want head, you gotta give head. You can't just expect to say "suck my dick" and she'll come running. What's in it for her? I think if she doesn't want to do anything sexually stimulating for you there is good reason. Maybe if you showed her the same consideration you show your unslobbered cock, she might consider it. What do you have to lose if you actually talk to her about it?